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This is something that mom and dad should decide. Traditionally, the parents of the bride paid for the costs of the wedding, but that has changed. In our society today, brides no longer live at home and are supported by their parents until marriage. Today, both sets of parents and the bride and groom may all contribute to the costs, or the bride and groom may pay for their own wedding.

Your sister should not assume that your parents will pay unless they offer to do so. She and her fiance should talk with both sets of parents, then allow the parents to decide if they want to help, and if so, by how much. If your parents and/or the groom's parents are unable or unwilling to help, then the bride and groom will need to plan accordingly.

A couple who have been living together for 7 years are indicating that they are financially independent, rather than dependent on parents. Your parents have no obligation to help and they shouldn't allow your sister to pressure them into doing anything that they don't feel is appropriate or that they may not be able to afford to do.

Glenna Tooman, ForeverWed.com Wedding Consultant