Foreverwed.com ~ View topic - When can I get engaged if my brother just got engaged?

I too think it is best if you simply talk to your brother, and ask him how he feels about you getting engaged (tell him when you wish to do it) and if says that is Ok with him, ask him to ask his Fiance also, then if you get the go ahead from the two of them ask them about weddings etc, and just let them know that you don't want to steal there thunder.
The nicest and easiest thing to do is to sit down with your brother and his intended (be nice take them out to lunch or something to celebrate there announcement) and them ask them how they feel about you getting engaged in the next few weeks, nonths, year etc (when ever you plan on it) and then let them know how you feel and how you really want to do this but without making them feel uncomfortable or without stealing there thunder, you could also bring up wedding dates etc, that you are plainning on getting married after them (providing they aren't waiting like 5 years), again so that you don't steal there limelight. you could talk about options and ideas as well.
This will only work if you get along with your brother and his intended wife, if not it is best to just wait until after there weding (again providing they aren't waiting a couple of years) or waiting at least 6-12 months.
Good Luck on this and Congratulations to you on your upcoming engagement and finding the right girl for you, who you want to make your wife.

Sharon

you shouldn't keep your feelings to yourself about this, you should tell them how it makes you feel, as you don't want the resentment from this to destroy your relationship with your in-laws or your husband (who will find it diffical;ut if you harbour resentment to his family, if not now then one day in the future).
You don't have to make a big scenen about it but let them know that it has hurt your feelings and made you feel like ????, having his siter muscle in so close to your wedding and before yours (when ettiquette says that you got engaged first and she should then have your wedding first, unles planning a very very long engagement (which 10-11 months is NOT).
Don't let the resentment ruin your relationship with your intended in-laws.
Sharon