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I have a cousin and a best friend who both want to be maid of honor at my wedding. Is it proper to have a maid and a matron of honor? Please help they are both like sisters to me, and I don't want to offend either of them.

Site Admin Joined: 07 Jun 2002 Posts: 618

You mentioned both a maid and matron; is one woman married and the other single? If so, this takes care of one issue, the use of titles. You would at least be able to give each woman a title of her own.

But whether it's two maids or a maid and matron, *practically* speaking, there are a couple other considerations with having two honor attendants.

The main distinctions of the maid/matron of honor are that she:
~ stands next to you
~ she helps you with your bouquet and train during the ceremony (because she's closest to you at the altar)
~ sometimes, she wears a different gown
~ sometimes, she holds a bigger/different bouquet
~ signs the marriage license.

You will need to decide how you want to split these duties and honors. If you make it clear to both women that you consider them equal in your wedding, then the division of duties shouldn't be too difficult.

For example, if one woman stands nearest you in the wedding, perhaps the other could sit nearest to you at the reception, or some arrangement like that.

If you will have other bridesmaids, then you can also choose the distinctions in dress and bouquet, if you like, but this is a personal decision.

Don't let the titles worry you too much; just look for a *practical* way to divide the duties, share the honors, and enjoy both of these people who are dear to you.

Very best wishes to you--

Foreverwed.com Expert--Sara L. Ambarian

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