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Joined: 06 Dec 2006 Posts: 1 Location: houston, texas

my fiance and i have already sent out wedding invitations. we live 5 hours apart, and have decided with the blessing of our parents to change the day of the wedding. we are only having immediate family now. we certainly do NOT want to hurt anyway, and we know that their are friends and family that want to be apart of things. financially and logistically it is better for us to move the date and to do things this way. we thought of writing a letter to those that have received invitations explaining the situation and thanking them for their support. is this all in bad taste?
also we already had the church booked for a reception and wedding. could we have a "reception" type party there anyway...simply celebrating our new marriage? we dont want people to feel obligated to bring gifts. what do we do? we want to be as respectful and considerate as possible. any advice will be well received!

Site Admin Joined: 08 Jun 2002 Posts: 1174

I am not quite sure that I follow everything that has occurred. You have already sent out invitations, which means that the wedding would have occurred in the next month to month and a half, but you are now canceling the planned wedding. You will need to call guests or send out a card immediately so that they don't make plans to attend.

You mention having a reception at the church - will this occur on the same day and at the same time that the wedding was planned? If so, you will need to explain to guests that the wedding will be a reception only. If you have already gotten married, you can send out a combination announcement and explanation that the wedding has been changed to a reception only.

As for gifts, in some areas of the country it is acceptable to say "No gifts, please" on the invitation. In other areas, that is considered presumptious and nothing should be mentioned about gifts at all.