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Being a
Good Groom
You may think that the fuss surrounding the wedding is silly
and incomprehensible, but what you don't realize is that the
way you do things as a couple between now and "I do" can set
patterns of communication that will grow over the course of
your marriage.
Your role in the
wedding is almost always smaller than the bride's, yet you
need to participate as much as possible in every phase of the
wedding planning. Getting married is a public affirmation of
commitment between a man and woman, and weddings are a
volatile mix of religion, legal issues, family issues, and the
transition from living as a bachelor to living together as a
team. As you plan the wedding with your bride, you learn a
lot not only about yourself but about her and her family.
Once you realize
the enormous value of taking an active role, you need to
develop a strategy to accomplish dozens of goals. What am I
supposed to pay for? How do I deal with my in laws? My single
friends? My clergyman? there is a long list of things that you
are supposed to know about.
On your own, you
have to buy an engagement and wedding ring; draw up the guest
lists for yourself and your family, plan the honeymoon; find a
best man and ushers; pay for a variety of symbolically
important wedding expenses and so on. You will be seen in a
better light by your bride if you cheerfully surprise them by
fulfilling your role before being asked. Remember the man who
is always prepared and knows what to do generates a larger
than life mystique, and your fiancée and her family will
rightly believe that they can depend on you. Above all else
so far, remember to keep your sense of humor
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Bridal Party Additional Resources: |
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Bridesmaids and Groomsmen,
Getting to know one another |
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Choosing your bridal party |
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Can my bridesmaids wear black? |
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Dismissing a Bridesmaid or
other attendant |
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Do we send invitations to the
people in our wedding party? |
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Do you have a suggestion of a
fun, inexpensive way to ask them to be in my |
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Down the aisle: Who walks with
the bride? |
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Eight Tips for Drafting a Great
Team! |
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Fun and unique ways to ask my
friends to be by my side in my wedding |
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Gift Ideas for your wedding
attendants |
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Is it a new tradition to have a
maid of honor and matron of honor? |
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Is it appropriate to have my
divorced dad & mom walk me down the isle |
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Is
it tacky to have a MAID & MATRON of honor?
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Is there a certain way your
supposed to ask a person to be an attendant? |
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Matron of Honor and a Maid of
Honor |
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more than one maid of honor? |
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Not the Maid of Honor, can I
help? |
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order of processional |
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what color ties should the guys
wear? |
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When should I ask them to be my
attendants? |
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Best man:
Best Man Responsibilities |
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Best man:
Duties of the Best man and Maid
of Honor |
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Best man:
How to choose your best man |
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Best man:
The Morning of duties.. |
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Best man:
You've
Been Chosen to be the
Best man, Now Live up to it!
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Best man:
wedding duties for the night
before |
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Best man:
What Tuxedoes should be worn in the
year 2000
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Best man:
Writing that wedding speech |
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Best man: Forum:
How soon should we order the tuxedos |
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Best man: Speech:
Examples: We have over 40 speeches |
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Children:
Including Your Children |
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Children:
Should you include them? |
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Children:
Roles For Children in Weddings |
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Children:
Ten tips on children
participation in Weddings |
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Children:
Deciding on clothing |
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Children:
Gift Ideas for children in Weddings |
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Children:
Make your children a part of
the wedding |
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Children:
Ring Ceremony for Baby |
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Children:
Vows that include children |
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Children:
Including a 2 year old in the vows and
ceremony |
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Children:
Including Babies in the Ceremony |
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Children:
Ceremony to include children |
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Children:
Child Attendants with sitter
after ceremony? |
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Children:
How to include step children in vows |
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Children:
Kids In The Wedding Party….Will They Be
In Yours? |
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Children:
Child care will be provided
during the ceremony |
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Children:
Who buys the pillow? |
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Duties:
10 Things Your Ushers Should Know |
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Duties:
Best man Responsibilities |
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Duties:
Do you know your duties? Check this list
for your duties! |
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Duties:
For a 4 year old daughter |
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Duties:
Is it proper to have a maid and
a matron of honor? |
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Duties:
It is traditional for the bride
to treat her maids to a luncheon |
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Duties:
Duties of the Bestman and Maid
of Honor |
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Duties:
Maid of Honor
Duties |
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Duties:
What are the grooms parents
suppose to pay for? |
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Duties:
What exactly does a personal attendant
to do? |
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Maid of
Honor :
Being the Maid of Honor |
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