Wedding Attendants Guide

Determining you bridal party is one of the most harrowing decisions you will make while planning your wedding. You first must determine the number of attendants then fill these slots with your friends and family. Let us just say this, "You are going to make a mistake, some feelings between friends and family will be hurt, but stand by your decision." Your first decisions are generally the best, go with these instincts.

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Here are a few pointers to help you on your way. Start by eyeing the size of your ceremony site. Many sites just may not accommodate a large bridal party. It may be physically impossible to place more than 6 attendants at smaller venues. You must remember that certain fixtures at the ceremony site are "fixed", that is they cannot be moved to accommodate more attendants. 

Choose your attendants very carefully, you must be sure that they will still be close to you at the time of your wedding. This may rule out some of your business colleagues, especially if you are considering a career move. Remember that many friends may be unwilling to travel a great distance to your ceremony. There will be some pressure to place members of your family in the bridal party. Make sure that you are certain of these choices before yielding to the family. Childhood friends may have become too distant, to choose. Your wedding also symbolizes your future, so pick some attendants who you will cherish as time passes.

If you find it difficult to tell an anxious friend or loved family member on your decision not to include them, you will find it easier to break this news to them either in person or by letter. People have become too used to phone calls, so will respond more positively to your use of another way to tell them. Try to keep your selections a closely guarded secret, so you have the opportunity to tell these disappointed people before they hear through the grapevine. It is always easier to explain to the other party on your problems in choosing your bridal party, and telling them the truth about having to decide between friends, family, cost and size of the bridal party.

The selection of a bridal party also gives you some more power in concluding other facets of your wedding. For instance, if your sister-in-law must be included in the party, and you compromise on a friend, then stand fast on another decision, such as if you want the wedding in a certain location and your mother-in-law wants it in another. Remember that your wedding, as well as your life is full of compromises and pick and choose yours wisely. Just make sure that you can live with these decisions, as long as you feel as your wedding is still under control.

Wedding Attendants Q & A: What you need to know

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Questions on How to ask:
Choosing your bridal party
When should I ask them to be my attendants? 
Is there a certain way your supposed to ask a person to be an attendant?
Do you have a suggestion of a fun, inexpensive way to ask them...
Eight Tips for Drafting a Great Bridal Party Team!
Fun and unique ways to ask my friends to be by my side in my wedding
Matron of Honor and a Maid of Honor
More than one maid of honor?
Bridesmaids and Groomsmen, Getting to know one another
Can my bridesmaids wear black?
Dismissing a Bridesmaid or other attendant
Do we send invitations to the people in our wedding party?

Gift Ideas for the Wedding Party
Gift Ideas for your wedding attendants

General Questions:
Is it a new tradition to have a maid of honor and matron of honor?
Is it appropriate to have my divorced dad & mom walk me down the isle
Is it tacky to have a MAID & MATRON of honor?
Not the Maid of Honor, can I help?
order of processional
what color ties should the guys wear?
Down the aisle: Who walks with the bride?

The Best Man:
Best Man Responsibilities
Duties of the Best man and Maid of Honor
How to choose your best man
The Morning of duties..
You've Been Chosen to be the Best man, Now Live up to it!
wedding duties for the night before
Writing that wedding speech
Forum: How soon should we order the tuxedos
Speech: Examples:  We have over 40 speeches

Children in the Wedding:
Including Your Children

Should you include them?
Roles For Children in Weddings
Ten tips on children participation  in Weddings
Deciding on clothing
Gift Ideas for children in Weddings
Make your children a part of the wedding
Ring Ceremony for Baby
Vows that include children
Including a 2 year old in the vows and ceremony
Including Babies in the Ceremony

Ceremony to include children
Child Attendants with sitter after ceremony?

How to include step children in vow s
Kids In The Wedding Party….Will They Be In Yours?
Child care will be provided during the ceremony
Who buys the pillow?

Duties For a 4 year old daughter

10 Things Your Ushers Should Know
Best man Responsibilities
Do you know your duties? Check this list for your duties!
It is traditional for the bride to treat her maids to a luncheon

What are the grooms parents suppose to pay for?
What exactly does a personal attendant to do?

Maid of Honor Duties

The Maid of Honor:
Being the Maid of Honor
Maid of Honor Responsibilities: Planning the Wedding Shower
Ordering Dresses
Duties of the Bestman and Maid of Honor
Is it proper to have a maid and a matron of honor?


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