Traditionally, the bride’s father walks her down
the aisle. But what if you have two Dad’s, a biological father, and a step Dad?
There are several options. One, have both Dad’s escort you. Or if you are closer
to one Dad than the other, go with the one whom you are more comfortable with.
Talk to “your two Dad’s.” Maybe one of them would be willing to walk you down
the aisle, and let the other do some other important thing such as make the
first toast at the reception. If you feel that one or both of them will be upset
at these suggestions, you may just want to skip having a partner and walk down
the aisle by yourself.
Another choice is to be escorted by both of your parents. Again, if you have a
blended family, consider how you feel about each person and discuss this with
all of them. You certainly don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or leave anyone
out, and there are plenty of special duties to be done at a wedding. Making
everyone feel included in some way is the main goal. It does not matter who does
what, so long as you are satisfied with the arrangements. A nice thing to do, to
honor those important people at the ceremony, is to hand a flower to each of
them when you reach the end of the aisle. This will make them stand out, and
symbolizes their importance to you.
Parents are not the only ones who can walk with you! Perhaps you really want
your sister to escort you, or even a bother, cousin, or a close friend. It does
not matter if they are male or female, old or young, or even if you walk alone.
Is this your second marriage, and you have children old enough to accept this
duty? Then by all means, allow your son or daughter to escort you!
What matters is how you feel about it and what you want. In today’s world, it is
acceptable to do pretty much anything that you want to make your wedding
personal and unique, so do not worry about “going by the book” in terms of
finding a partner to walk with.
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