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Maid and Matron of Honor...
New tradition?
Q.
Is it a new tradition to
have a maid of honor and matron of honor?
A.
Actually, it's quite an old tradition to have both a maid
and matron of honor, where appropriate. In your case, it
seems like a natural choice. It is important to decide
ahead of time who will be responsible for which duties,
but other than that, it is an easy and logical way to
honor both of these important people.
Logistically, you will need to choose which will stand
closest to you at the altar and who will walk in what
order in the processional and recessional. Probably, your
daughter would be the logical one to attend
you most closely-- standing with you, holding your bouquet
when necessary, adjusting your train if you will have one,
etc.
However, if you wish, it is perfectly acceptable for the
maid and matron to actually walk in together, honoring
both equally and making it clear that the matron is just
that and not another bridesmaid.
As for the equality of men on the other side, I personally
recommend you do not worry about this issue. There is no
true drawback to an uneven number of maids and groomsmen,
and I think attendants should be chosen for
emotional/sentimental reasons, not numerical ones. If
your husband-to-be chooses to have his best man and the
same number of groomsmen as you have "regular" maids, that
is fine. It would also work fine if he wanted to have his
best man and one more groomsman to equal the number of
total men and women. That decision should be up to him.
I've never been to a wedding with two "best men" and I see
no real reason there should be one in this case-- unless
the groom had some sort of similar situation to yours.
But even then, it's more awkward with
men. There's no reason to make all sorts of distinctions.
If you end up with fewer men, then you can handle the
recessional in a number of different ways. You can have
your daughter walk herself out behind you, then have the
best man escort the matron. You can have the matron walk
out alone behind you and have the best man escort your
daughter. You can have the best man escort *both* the maid
and matron (this can sometimes be quite charming, if the
aisle is wide enough to accommodate three people). Use
your own judgment on what seems appropriate. The "rules"
aren't strict about this sort of thing, so you are free to
do what works for you. : )
Foreverwed.com Expert-- Sara L.Ambarian
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