Unity Candle Ceremony Tips
The unity candle symbolizes the very essence of the wedding
ceremony. Two taper candles, representing the couple as individuals, are used to
light a single center candle as a visible symbol of their commitment to each
other. There are many variations on the ceremony and the individual details are
completely up to you. Here are some ideas to help you as you plan your
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Before the ceremony begins, place the unity candle on a
small table near the altar. If you have an on-site coordinator who may have
specific instructions, be sure to check in advance. To prepare for the ceremony,
it is a good idea to light the wicks for a moment. (We know you won't be nervous
or anything...but just in case, your candles will light much more easily.) Oh,
and who's got the matches?
There are several popular options for lighting you taper
candles. You can have your parents come forward to light the side tapers as a
symbol of your two families coming together as one. At this point, some couples
choose to present their mothers with a rose. If you wish, the minister or best
man and the maid of honor can light the tapers. Or, you may light the tapers
yourselves from a candle on the altar.
- When it comes to your unity candle ceremony,
that is often the question! While some folks feel that you should extinguish
the candles to symbolize your commitment to one another, others argue that to
emphasize your individuality within your union, you must leave the tapers lit.
Whether or not you extinguish the taper candles is a personal decision and,
like many aspects of your wedding planning, is entirely up to you.
- If you choose to extinguish your tapers, try
- As [Name] and [Name] together light the
center candle, they will extinguish their own candles, thus letting the center
candle symbolize the union of their lives. As this one light cannot be
divided, neither will their lives be divided.
- If you'd prefer to leave your tapers lit,
try this one...
- [Name] and [Name] come into their marriage
relationship as individuals and they do not lose their identity, rather they
use their individuality to create and strengthen the relationship of marriage.
Therefore, the three candles remain lighted, one for each of them and one for
their marriage, as symbols of their commitment to each other and to a lasting
and loving marriage.
- The following ceremony was adapted by Meg
- [Name] and [Name] are going to light their
Unity Candle, a symbol of their marriage relationship. The candles from which
they light it have been lighted by their mothers to represent their lives to
The lights, representing
the faith, wisdom, and love they have received from their parents, are
distinct, each burning alone. [Name] and [Name] will light the center candle
to symbolize the union of their lives. As this one light burns undivided, so
shall their love be one.
>From now on your thoughts shall be for each
other rather than for your individual selves. Your joys and sorrows shall be
shared alike. May the radiance of this one light be a testimony of your unity.
May these candles burn brightly as symbols of your commitment to each other,
and as a tribute to your parents' lasting and loving marriages.
- The text of this ceremony is particularly
appropriate when used with our Classic
- Today, [Name] and [Name] make a loving
commitment to follow the greatest Commandment of all: "Love one another, as I
have loved you." They do this in hopes that their union will become a symbol
of God's promise to merge two lives into one.
The two distinct flames represent your lives to
this moment; individual and unique. As you light the center candle together,
the entwined rings symbolize your two lives joined in dependence and growing
maturity. Your plans will be mutual, your joys and sorrows will be shared
alike. The cross is a reminder of your faith in the Lord who who enriches your
marriage in every way.
Extinguish the two, and you are forever
united in God's love.
- Reverend David Beronio of The Wedding Chapel
at Harvey's says this is his most popular ceremony:
- Marriage brings people together in a unique
relationship, in their togetherness they may share many experiences as if one
person but each also retains his or her own identity. Genuine love allows us
to overcome our sense of isolation, yet permits us our own uniqueness as
The two lit candles before
you are representative of your individual lives up to this moment. They are
two individual and distinct lights, each capable of going their own separate
directions. To bring joy and radiance in to your home and lives, there must be
a merging of these two flames in to one. As you take your own candle
symbolizing your individual lives, I ask that you light the center candle
establishing the union of your two lives in to one.
- This ceremony is used at the Amore Wedding
Chapel in Saint Augustine, Florida.
- The Unity Candle symbolizes the new family
you are now forming from your past lives. The flames you light it with both
burn brighter when joined together. Now you both are charged with keeping this
flame bright for the rest of your days upon this earth.
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