Unity Candle Ceremony Tips

The unity candle symbolizes the very essence of the wedding ceremony. Two taper candles, representing the couple as individuals, are used to light a single center candle as a visible symbol of their commitment to each other. There are many variations on the ceremony and the individual details are completely up to you. Here are some ideas to help you as you plan your ceremony...

Preparing for Your Ceremony
To Extinguish or Not to Extinguish
Meg and Paul's Ceremony
Cross and Rings Ceremony
Wedding Chapel at Harvey's Ceremony
Amore Wedding Chapel Ceremony
More Ceremony Ideas

Preparing for Your Ceremony:

Before the ceremony begins, place the unity candle on a small table near the altar. If you have an on-site coordinator who may have specific instructions, be sure to check in advance. To prepare for the ceremony, it is a good idea to light the wicks for a moment. (We know you won't be nervous or anything...but just in case, your candles will light much more easily.) Oh, and who's got the matches?

There are several popular options for lighting you taper candles. You can have your parents come forward to light the side tapers as a symbol of your two families coming together as one. At this point, some couples choose to present their mothers with a rose. If you wish, the minister or best man and the maid of honor can light the tapers. Or, you may light the tapers yourselves from a candle on the altar.

To Extinguish or Not to Extinguish

When it comes to your unity candle ceremony, that is often the question! While some folks feel that you should extinguish the candles to symbolize your commitment to one another, others argue that to emphasize your individuality within your union, you must leave the tapers lit. Whether or not you extinguish the taper candles is a personal decision and, like many aspects of your wedding planning, is entirely up to you.
 
If you choose to extinguish your tapers, try this reading...
As [Name] and [Name] together light the center candle, they will extinguish their own candles, thus letting the center candle symbolize the union of their lives. As this one light cannot be divided, neither will their lives be divided.
If you'd prefer to leave your tapers lit, try this one...
[Name] and [Name] come into their marriage relationship as individuals and they do not lose their identity, rather they use their individuality to create and strengthen the relationship of marriage. Therefore, the three candles remain lighted, one for each of them and one for their marriage, as symbols of their commitment to each other and to a lasting and loving marriage.
 

Meg and Paul's Ceremony

The following ceremony was adapted by Meg Richardson.
 
[Name] and [Name] are going to light their Unity Candle, a symbol of their marriage relationship. The candles from which they light it have been lighted by their mothers to represent their lives to this moment.

The lights, representing the faith, wisdom, and love they have received from their parents, are distinct, each burning alone. [Name] and [Name] will light the center candle to symbolize the union of their lives. As this one light burns undivided, so shall their love be one.

>From now on your thoughts shall be for each other rather than for your individual selves. Your joys and sorrows shall be shared alike. May the radiance of this one light be a testimony of your unity. May these candles burn brightly as symbols of your commitment to each other, and as a tribute to your parents' lasting and loving marriages.

Cross and Double Rings Ceremony

The text of this ceremony is particularly appropriate when used with our Classic Unity Candle.
 
Today, [Name] and [Name] make a loving commitment to follow the greatest Commandment of all: "Love one another, as I have loved you." They do this in hopes that their union will become a symbol of God's promise to merge two lives into one.

The two distinct flames represent your lives to this moment; individual and unique. As you light the center candle together, the entwined rings symbolize your two lives joined in dependence and growing maturity. Your plans will be mutual, your joys and sorrows will be shared alike. The cross is a reminder of your faith in the Lord who who enriches your marriage in every way.

Extinguish the two, and you are forever united in God's love.

Wedding Chapel at Harvey's

Reverend David Beronio of The Wedding Chapel at Harvey's says this is his most popular ceremony:
 
Marriage brings people together in a unique relationship, in their togetherness they may share many experiences as if one person but each also retains his or her own identity. Genuine love allows us to overcome our sense of isolation, yet permits us our own uniqueness as individuals.

The two lit candles before you are representative of your individual lives up to this moment. They are two individual and distinct lights, each capable of going their own separate directions. To bring joy and radiance in to your home and lives, there must be a merging of these two flames in to one. As you take your own candle symbolizing your individual lives, I ask that you light the center candle establishing the union of your two lives in to one.

Amore Wedding Chapel

This ceremony is used at the Amore Wedding Chapel in Saint Augustine, Florida.
 
The Unity Candle symbolizes the new family you are now forming from your past lives. The flames you light it with both burn brighter when joined together. Now you both are charged with keeping this flame bright for the rest of your days upon this earth.

 

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