Wedding Ceremony - Unity Candles - How Does it Work

I have forgotten what/how the unity candle thing works.... there seems to be three of them ? one of the same kind on either side and a large one in the middle ? -  what is the procedure for lighting them?  It seems to me that the mothers of the parties did that and we could substitute one child on each side, but what about the middle candle   ???  I don't see anything the sample ceremony that mentions these.


Actually, you have it just right, and yes, you could have children light the two identical candles.

What happens then, though, is that at some point during the ceremony, *you two* approach the candle area and each take the candle on your side and use those two candles to kindle the flame of the bigger unity candle together.  That's the symbol of your two lives joining to form a new one.

Does that make it a little clearer? I hope so.  Feel free to contact us if you have any additional question about this ceremony.  And I'll make
sure we look over the sample ceremony to make sure it's clear for others, too.  : )

Best wishes and many blessings to you and yours--

Sara Ambarian --Staff expert--
author of "A Bride's Touch: A Handbook of Wedding Personality and
creative consultant/custom bridal designer 
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