Is it proper to have the
rehearsal dinner at the bride's parents' home?
My
brother is getting married next month. Both he and his bride live
here. However, the bride is from another town, about 5 hours away. The
wedding will take place in her home town. We (my parents I) have some
questions regarding the rehearsal dinner.
1) Is it
proper to have the rehearsal dinner at the bride's parents' home?
2)Who is usually invited to the rehearsal dinner?
3)What part does the brides' family have in the planning of the
dinner?
4) What are the responsibilities of the groom's family for the
rehearsal dinner?
Traditionally, the rehearsal dinner is the responsibility of the
groom's family unless there are extenuating circumstances, such as in
your case. Your parents should first talk to your brother to find out
what he and his fiancée want. Then, they should approach her parents,
if they have volunteered their home. No matter where the dinner is
held, your parents should offer to pay for the food. Everyone who is
in the wedding party should be invited to the dinner, along with their
spouses. The children in the wedding party should be accompanied by
their parents. The minister and spouse and wedding coordinator should
also be invited. It is a courtesy, but not a requirement, to also
invite relatives and close friends who have come from out of town
rather than leaving them at a hotel alone for the evening. It sounds
as though the bride's family may have overstepped their role and have
planned the dinner already. If this is the case, and your brother and
his fiancée are happy with the arrangements, I would let them go ahead
and handle the arrangements. However, your parents should still offer
to pay for the food. They do not have to pay for alcohol, though, if
they would not have served it at a dinner that they planned. If the
bride's parents refuse to accept payment, you have at least done what
is socially proper.
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