Wedding Rehearsals - Do We Pick Up The Tab on Extras?
Q. My future daughter-in-law informed me that many of the rehearsal participants will be bringing their spouses and children. Are we required to pick up the tab for them or just the bridal party?
A. You should pay for dinner for the spouse of each member of the wedding party and for the parents of children in the wedding party. Additional children of members of the wedding party are optional, depending on what type of dinner you are having.
If it is a casual dinner that children would enjoy, such as a BBQ, it is a courtesy to include them also. Others who should be invited by you include the minister and spouse and the wedding coordinator.
If the musician who attends the rehearsal (such as the church organist) is a friend of the couple, he/she should also be invited.
If you are having the dinner at a nice restaurant, you might want to send out invitations that include the name of the restaurant, time of dinner, and an RSVP. Send them with only the names of the wedding party member and spouse on the envelope.
They should understand that the location is not child-friendly. This will allow the parents of the children in the wedding party to also decide if it is appropriate for the children to attend. However, the parents may choose to attend without the children, since they should be friends of the couple.
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