When it comes right down to it, I don't think
you and your spouse-to-be are going to *want*
to forego the rehearsal dinner. The normal
"guests" at this event are your nearest and
dearest family and friends. And often (though
not always) they have assembled from far and
wide on the day of the rehearsal to help you
get your actual wedding festivities going.
Most couples I've known and worked with are
VERY anxious to spend the evening with the
people who attend the rehearsal. It's usually
a very special evening, more intimate than the
wedding celebration itself, and a good time of
anticipation, fellowship, memories and joy.
Maybe the thing you two need to do is look at
ways to enjoy the evening with your family and
bridal party, but reduce or split costs. No
real rule says that you have to take everyone
out to a fancy restaurant as many of us
envision. (And actually, in "traditional"
etiquette the groom's family would pay for
You might host your guests for some simple
homemade meal (spaghetti, barbeque, pizza).
You might work out a cooperative meal with a
friend or family member. You could consider a
full-blown potluck, where all the guests bring
something to contribute and you all enjoy the
evening of fun and fellowship. Many times
family and closest friends are **HAPPY** to
help with things like this, if you only
discuss it with them.
Even going "dutch" on dinner at a favorite
restaurant could be an option. A traditional
option? Not really. A reasonable one for
your circumstances. Yes, it might well be.
So don't be discouraged, and don't discard the
whole rehearsal dinner concept because funds
are tight. Think and talk it over and bit,
and try to come up with an option that suits
your situation, your budget, and your
relationship with your family and friends.
Very Best wishes to you!
ForeverWed.com Wedding Expert Staff