Wedding Rehearsals - Do We Have to Invite Out Of Town Guests

Q.  Do we have to invite out of town guests to the rehearsal dinner? 


A.  No, you don't have to invite out of town guests to the rehearsal dinner.  From an etiquette point, you only need to invite: the wedding party and their spouses (if they are single, you do not need to let them bring a date unless they are engaged) parents of the bride and groom and any step-parents grandparents if they attend the rehearsal parents of the flower girl and ring bearer if you invite them (you can omit them if they are too young). 

It is a courtesy, however, to include the out of town relatives who might otherwise be spending the evening alone.  It is also a courtesy to invite the minister if you know him/her very well, your personal wedding coordinator (not a church coordinator), and any singers or musicians that are friends and who will be performing during the ceremony.

Since the groom's parents are the hosts, they should make the final decision about who to invite and not invite and they should issue the invitations.  As the bride, you can invite the minister and coordinator if you first have the approval of the hosts. 

One easy way to be sure that everyone is invited, particularly if the groom's parents don't know all of the members of the wedding party, is to give them a list of names and addresses and let them send an invitation by mail.  They can include a phone number to send an RSVP and that way they will know exactly how many to expect.  If several people can't attend, then they might consider including Aunt Susie and Uncle Joe who just arrived in town after a long trip.

Glenna Tooman, Wedding Consultant

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