Normally the Bride's mother is the last to be seated, but what
happens when the Groom's mother walks him down the aisle. When is
the Mother of the Bride seated?
Whenever you add something unusual
to a wedding service, you have to
step back and look over the situation it creates to find out what
be most logical and gracious. That is all etiquette is for, but
covers traditional or common practices.
In your case, I think there are a couple of logical options,
on the logistics of the groom's entrance.
If the groom's mother will escort him into the church *before* the
processional, at the time a groom would normally take his place at
altar, then this *could* be done before the bride's mother is
In essence, it's almost like the groom would be escorting and
his mother as much as vice versa, and it could be logical for them
walk in together, hug or kiss if they choose in the altar/front
area, then each would take their place-- the groom at the altar,
mother in the front pew. Then the bride's mother would be escorted
and remain standing to signal the start of the processional.
If the groom's mother will be escorting him as some part of the
processional*, the bride's mother would be seated first to signal
start f the processional as always. The groomsmen would probably
their way to the altar before or with the maids, then perhaps the
man, the groom and his mother, the maid of honor, then flower girl
and/or ring bearer, then the bride and her father.
I think that the honor attendants (best man and maid of honor)
immediately precede the groom and bride respectively. Flower girl
ring bearer usually are right with the bride, too, although I can
having the ring bearer perhaps paired with the best man and groom
When the mother of the groom "drops off" the groom, she would step
into her pew and remain standing with the guests while the
processional members pass.
Then, if desired, since the inference of having her escort the
a mirror of the father escorting the bride, perhaps parents on
sides could remain standing and join in unison for the "who gives
man and woman"... or "who blesses and supports this man and
woman"... or whatever text might be used for the father of the
bride at the outset of the service.
Sara L. Ambarian --Staff expert-- Foreverwed.com
author of "A Bride's Touch: A Handbook of Wedding Personality and
creative consultant/custom bridal designer
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