Q. I'm
having a problem with wording for my daughters wedding
invitations. I am divorced for 20 years. I have kept my
childrens last name. The father, who never paid a dime,
is coming to the wedding. My daughter wants the
invitation to read.
Ms. Darcey xxxxx and Mr. Jeff xxxxxxx
Mrs. ?? (deceased) and Mr. ??
invite you to the wedding of
Marni xxxxx and Chris ?
How should this be
done. I am divorced but presently engaged. The boys
mother is deceased and the father is remarried.
A.From
an etiquette point, an invitation is issued in the
names of those who are hosting the wedding (paying
part or all of the expenses). If your ex-husband
isn't contributing to the costs of the wedding, his
name doesn't need to be on the invitation unless your
daughter really wants to include him. In that case,
the wording that you used, "Ms. Darcey xxxx and Mr.
Jeff xxxxx" would be correct, though Jeffrey would be
used instead of a nickname.
Since the groom's mother
is deceased, her name would not appear on the
invitation, but can be included in the wedding
program. If the groom's father is a co-host, either
his name, Mr. Steven Jones, or he and his current
wife's name, Mr. & Mrs. Steven Jones, would be used.
The following wording
would be similar to, "request the honor of your
presence at the marriage of their children," then give
the full names of both the bride and groom.
Many couples find that
it is less confusing to issue the invitation in the
names of the bride and groom and then say "together
with their parents" rather than listing all of the
names. It would then read, " Miss Marnie Elizabeth
xxxx and Mr. Christopher William Jones, together with
their parents, request........"
Listing all of the names
when there are several can make the invitation too
long, particularly if reception information is
included on the invitation. Your invitations dealer
should be able to sit down with you and print out
samples of how the various wording styles will look so
that you can then determine which looks best.
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