selected your attendants, be sure to ask these individuals if they wish to
participate! They'll be involved in many aspects of your wedding. Are they aware
of the time and expense their positions require?
You already know
that the best man pays for his tuxedo and the maid of honor pays for her gown.
The maid of honor and best man are each also responsible for arranging for a
gift from the other attendants. Each one contacts the bridesmaids or groomsmen
and arranges for a special, joint wedding gift from that group. It is the duty
of the best man and maid of honor to collect the money from the attendants and
choose a gift they know their friends will love.
this to your friends. They're delighted to accept! "What else can we do?", they
ask. Well, the maid of honor helps the bride pick out the perfect bridesmaids'
dresses, while the best man assists the groom in choosing the appropriate
Parties! The maid
of honor will have a full calendar; she attends all pre-wedding showers and
parties given for the bride. Couples' showers are very popular, and both the
best man and maid of honor are expected to attend. They also plan and are
financially responsible for any bachelor or bachelorette parties. The maid of
honor will also be busy helping to address invitations and make favors.
The big day has
arrived. Your attendants are there to "get you to the church on time!" They help
you get dressed and ready for the ceremony. The best man is in charge of
arranging transportation to and from the church, and to the wedding night
location. He may even drive the couple, himself. The best man and maid of honor
have the privilege of acting as witnesses to your marriage. By signing the
license they verify that they heard the spoken vows and witnessed the ceremony.
If there is no
ring bearer the maid of honor wears the groom's ring on her finger and the best
man carries the bride's ring in his pocket. The best man also presents the
checks to the clergy and organist at the church. He doesn't assume the financial
responsibility, just delivers the envelopes!
The ceremony is
over and guests have gathered at the reception. If the wedding has a larger
receiving line, your attendants will be standing there with you and your
parents. Your best man and maid of honor act as host and hostess at the
reception. They cordially greet guests, dance and mingle. Both the best man and
the maid of honor toast the happy couple.
Is there a money
dance? The best man starts it by dancing with the bride while the maid of honor
dances with the groom. The best man can also take the role of master of
It's time to leave
for the honeymoon. Did the best man and maid of honor remember to decorate the
car? That's part of the fun! The maid of honor assists the bride in changing
from her bridal gown into her going-away clothes. The best man must remember to
take the tuxedos back to the store the next day. The maid of honor does a final
sweep of changing or dressing areas, too, to check for any forgotten items. The
wedding is over and your friends helped to make your wedding a cherished and
special memory. That's what friends are for.