than risk offending your guests by saying too much too soon, it would be
better to simply say on the invitation, "Child care will be provided during
the ceremony." Then, on the wedding day, instruct your ushers, guest book
attendant and any others who will have the first contact with the guests to
greet guests with children and simply say, "I'll direct you to the play room
or the nursery." By making it sound like it is expected rather than a
choice, guests will be more apt to do what is asked. If a guest protests,
the person can say, "I'm sorry but children under age .... (such as 10)
aren't permitted in the sanctuary during the ceremony." They don't have to
give an explanation or say that you specifically instructed them not to
allow the children in the sanctuary.
If the church has a cry room with a window and sound, the older children who
want to watch the ceremony could go in there along with the infants. Be
prepared for some complaints from the mothers of infants who may feel that
they are being singled out. If they do insist on bringing an infant into
the sanctuary, have the ushers instruct them to remain at the back of the
room and tell them that the ceremony is being recorded and they should take
the child to the cry room if they get noisy.
Depending on how many children might come, you may need to have a couple of
rooms available, one for young children and one for older children. The
children will probably appreciate the idea of being with their friends more
than with the parents. You might want to place signs in the church foyer
that are clearly visible indicating that children infants to age 3 go one
direction and those over 3 go another direction.
Be aware that children aren't the only ones that can cause disruptions
during the ceremony and background noise on your video. Any adult who has a
cold or suffers from an illness that causes them to cough, can be just as
disruptive as a child.
Glenna Tooman, ForeverWed.com Wedding Consultant