The subject of children at weddings seems to be a tricky one
for many families currently. There is quite a rift in thinking between
people who consider weddings a "full family occasion", and people who it's
inappropriate or distracting to have children at a wedding and/or reception.
As a parent myself, and a member of families who agree with
the former, I have to say I'm personally on your side about this. I would
not want to leave my children for hours in a hotel room with a babysitter in
a strange city-- and my children are a little older than your oldest.
I also have to say, that I'm always a little frustrated by
couples who want kids in the wedding for the "cute factor", but expect the
kids to disappear thereafter. Seems, frankly, a little selfish and
However, in either case, the decision is really up to you to
make. If you are not comfortable with the options presented by the hosts--
i.e., leaving the kids with sitters, you can either fight the decision
(which probably will only make for bad feelings), or decline the honor of
having your children in the wedding. If it's an option to leave the
children home with someone reliable, you might still choose to attend.
If not, then you may well have to decline the entire wedding.
It's unfortunate, but the hosts don't seem to have left you
Best wishes to you.
Sara Ambarian --Foreverwed.com expert
author of "A Bride's Touch: A Handbook of Wedding Personality
and Inspiration"/ creative consultant/custom bridal designer
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