Including children in the ceremony is a nice way to make
them feel that they are part of the new family.
Your minister should be able to provide suggestions for
the timing and wording of such a ceremony. Usually, vows are made to the
children after the bride and groom have exchanged their vows and the rings.
Then, the minister calls the children forward and the parents make a vow to
love, support, encourage, and care for the children. Often, the children
are given a necklace or other item as a tangible reminder of the ceremony.
Some couples choose to purchase family medallions to give
to the children. You can find the medallions on
the Internet. They come with suggested wording for the presentation.
Best wishes to you.
Glenna Tooman, ForeverWed.com Wedding Consultant
Sample Wedding Vows for children
and blended families.
take you, ____, to be my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold from this
day forward. For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and
in health...for all eternity."
_______, take you now, in the presence of God and these witnesses, to be my
wife/husband. I promise to love you, to hold you and to honor you, in good
times and in bad, to enjoy you, to communicate with you always, and to
console you when you need consoling. I will give thanks for you each and
every day, and cherish you with all of my heart until our time together on
earth has ended."
I promise to be a good and faithful husband/wife to you, and also a patient,
loving father/mother to (children's names), caring for them and providing
for them as my own. I promise to be their strength and their emotional
support, loving them with all my heart forever."
The children—now part of a
loving blended family—can then repeat “We do" after these words:
(children's names), do you promise to love and respect your parent's new
husband/wife? Do you promise to support their marriage and new family? Do
you promise to accept the responsibility of being their children, and to
encourage them and support them in your new life together?"