Make your children a part of the
By Nily Glaser
1. Let your children (if they are old enough) be involved in the
preparations as well as the wedding ceremony and reception.
2. Consult with your children about simple things such as colors they like
for your wedding, a favorite flower they may wish you to consider, what
color dress your daughter wants for the occasion? What color tie your son
would like to wear etc... Let them know that you appreciate their
1. Are you going to have a unity candle? Instead of a "Unity Candle" why not
make it a "Family Candle". Make your wedding family oriented. Let the kids
walked down the aisle together and light the tapers with or without help
from the grandmas. If you have a personalized candle like the candles at
Candles by Nily have a congratulatory message from them right inside your
2. When you go shopping for your rings, why not purchase a ring for each of
the children. Right after you have been pronounced husband and wife, invite
the kids to join you and put a ring on each child's finger. Some clergy will
be glad to bless the kids.
3. Another way to incorporate the kids in the ceremony is to ask the
officiant to sign a decorative family license. You may prepare it in advance
and have it ready for a signature. You must discuss this with the officiant
ahead of time and get an approval.
4. And, why not include your children in your vows?
5. A flower girl and a ring bearer are also wonderful ways to have your
children as a part of the ceremony.
6. Have you considered having your children walk you or walk with you down
In conclusion, put in as many loving touches as possible. Let the kids know
that they belong in this new union.
Include your kids in the reception. Ask them:
1. To ask each guest to sign the guest book.
2. To make sure each place setting has a wedding favor.
3. To seat the guests.
4. To make sure that the gifts table is well organized.
1. Make a toast for the children immediately after the toast for the bride
2. Follow the first dance that is reserved for the bride and groom with a
dance reserved for mom and dad and the children.
3. If you have a candle lighting ceremony at your reception, don't forget to
invite the kids to light one of the candles.
4. When you thank your bridal party, don't forget to thank the kids for
their help and tell them how important they are and how proud they have made
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Glaser, A-wedding Day and Gan Publishing Nily Glaser is the founder of
A-wedding Day, http://www.a-weddingday.com a very popular Wedding Resource
and Information Center. She is also the publisher of the free A-wedding Day