to etiquette, a shower should not be given by the mother of either the
bride or the groom. In some areas of the country, it is also considered
improper for a sister to give a shower. Usually, a shower is given by a
relative (an aunt or a cousin) or a close friend. The bridesmaids may
give the shower if they live in the area and want to, but they do not have
Whoever gives the shower should consult with
the bride and may want input from her mother about who to invite,
addresses, and other pertinent information.